And on Tuesday he and his future groom David Zakur were at Hartford City Hall taking care of those last-minute necessities, including getting their marriage license in preparation for their June 22 nuptials.
“We are excited and can’t wait,” said Lawlor, a powerful veteran legislator who met Zakur, a scientist at Pfizer, several years ago.
The festivities include a wedding ceremony at pal Gov. Dannel P. Malloy’s residence followed by a cocktail reception until 6 p.m. Then the party moves to Lawlor’s brother and sister-in-law’s nearby home. Lawlor’s sister-in-law Ruth,by the way, just happens to be an event planner.
“We kind of want it to be a cocktail party with a wedding at half time,” Lawlor said grinning about the wedding festivities they are paying for and hosting.
Performing the wedding ceremony will be another Lawlor pal, Ct. Supreme Court Justice Andrew McDonald. About 125 people have been invited.
“Yep, I’m the last of the group to get gay married, ” quipped Lawlor, who, with Mark Ojakian,now Malloy’s chief of staff, then legislator McDonald and others, spearheaded the push for legislation legalizing gay marriage in Connecticut.
The soon-to-be newlyweds note that while they will be in suits with bright-colored shirts for the festivities, their clever wedding invitation offered some fashion guidelines for those planning to attend. “Fabulous dress but men, please no ties,” was the information for the guys. And for the women attending the wedding there was this. “Ladies, toss a pair of lawn friendly shoes into the Mercedes for the reception afterwards. Your feet will thank you.”
Part one of the reception, at the governor’s residence, will feature appetizers courtesy of Tallulah’s Catering, libations and jazz including a performance by Kate Chaston.
Part two, at the Lawlor home, will feature Mexican food and a mariachi band, a salute to the newlyweds first date.
“Our first dinner date was to Mezcal Restaurante in New Haven,” said the 56-year-old Lawlor who is getting married for the first time. “And they have a mariachi band there. So when we were planning the wedding we asked if they would come up and play and they said yes.”
The 45-year-old Zakur, who has been married before, said the wedding rings are designed by New Haven goldsmith Derek Simpson and there will be someone special presenting them at the ceremony. Doing the honors will be his five-year-old son Cole, who was also in the wedding invitation photo with his dad and soon-to-be stepdad.
The couple expect a lot of speeches given the crowd that includes the governor, Lieutenant Governor Nancy Wyman, Ojakian and other politicians and lobbyists who are close friends of the two.
And as far as a honeymoon?
“We’ll probably go into New York City for a few days,” said Lawlor. “And then plan something big for the fall.”