Melissa Gorga is best known for her role on the reality television show “The Real Housewives of New Jersey.” The aspiring singer and new author is the dedicated wife of Joe Gorga, the mother of three on the show that also features her confrontational relationship with sister-in-law Teresa Giudice. But there will be no fighting or stress when she comes to Foxwood MGM Shrine on July 30. She just wants to come to Connecticut and have a good time as she hosts its “Ultimate White Party.” Gorga was home in New Jersey when she called to Spill the Beans with Java.
Q: So what will you be bringing with you to the “Summer White Party” and what will you be wearing?
A: I am bringing my husband, Joe Gorga with me and a couple of friends as well. And I’m trying to find my little white dress right now.
Q: What do you think makes a good party?
A: I think it is the music and when everyone having a good time and dancing and a couple of drinks. We had a good time the last time we were at Foxwoods MGM Shrine.
Q: You have a new book, “Love Italian Style:The Secrets of My Hot and Happy Marriage.” Tell!
A: It drops Sept 17 and pre-orders are doing really well right now and I’m smiling. It’s been exciting to be writing about life and your own marriage and have everyone read it. It’s kind of crazy. My plan is to give it to my daughter when she gets married. It worked for Joe and me. It’s about taking a fresh approach to marriage whether you are a newlywed or been married for a while. I plan to give to my daughter when she gets married.
Q: What do you think the secret to your marriage success might be?
A: I think fans and those we have met everywhere like the way Joe and I are tight. We have this playful, sexy relationship. We are very loyal and committed to each other after nine years. The book gives readers some tips on how to keep a marriage fresh and sexy. You need to keep it sexy in a marriage. You have to be a girlfriend.
Q: That said, can you spill one of the tips in the book?
A: When he gets home from work, you leave you ego at the door. You can have an ego at work or at the gym but when he gets home you treat your man like he is king. And in turn you will be his queen.
Q: Given the interesting interaction you have with some of your relatives on the show, like your sister-in-law Teresa Giudice, have you ever thought of writing a book on family relationships?
A: Not right now. I think the show is our life and how we are living and it’s real and intense. I do think we are normal. Maybe it’s a little more dramatic on tv and there’s always someone not talking to someone else. But you hear that all the time in all families. We are brave enough to put it out there. We have tough skin.
Q: You are also a professional singer. What’s next in that career?
A: I have a new record, “Never Let Me Go” with Johnny Wright. We are working on a release date.
Q: If “The Real Housewives of New Jersey” show ended, what would you do next professionally? If housewives came to an end what do you want to do next?
A: I am not sure what I would pursue. I love to give advice, love to talk things out. Maybe a talk show, or something to do with fashion, maybe designing.
Q: What has the show taught you?
A: We always learn. We evolve every year, about our feeling, about ourselves. I learned you can’t please everyone. I’ve learned to be myself. When I walk into a situation I say what I think is right, not want fans or someone else wants to hear. I have had mud thrown on my face time and time again and I am done throwing a blanket over it. If I’m not happy with what’s going on I want it fixed. I have learned to stay real and not do something because that’s what the fans want.
Q: What is something no one knows about you?
A: I am deathly scared of things like scary movies and just scary things. I cannot be home alone.
The Summer White Party at Shrine begins at 9 p.m. For ticket information 860-312-8760 or go to TheUltimateWhite Party.com